Jon Snow: "If I don't return, at least you won't have to deal with the King in the North anymore."
Daenerys Targaryen: "I've grown used to him."
— Jon and Daenerys before Jon leaves for the Wall.[src]

Jon Snow and Daenerys Targaryen first meet since are in need of one another as an ally, and slowly begin to work together to achieve their respective goals. They gradually develop an attraction and become lovers.

History

Season 7

Daenerys is visited by the Red Priestess Melisandre, who speculates that Daenerys might be The Prince That Was Promised. Varys questions Melisandre about her previous service to the ill-fated King Stannis Baratheon. While Daenerys initially does not believe that she could be the Prince, Missandei reassures her that the High Valyrian word for "prince" or "princess" is gender-neutral. When pressed, Melisandre tells Daenerys she believes her to be one potential candidate to be the Prince That Was Promised, before identifying the other; Jon Snow, the King in the North, who has united the North and the wildlings. Tyrion vouches for Jon and convinces Daenerys that he will make a good ally, since they have a common enemy - the Lannisters. Daenerys accepts Tyrion's advice, and tells him to extend an invitation for Jon to attend her at Dragonstone – where Jon must "bend the knee."[1]

Jon and Davos arrive at Dragonstone.

Davos and Jon arrives; they first lay eyes on Dany's dragons.

On the cliffs overlooking the beach, Varys confronts Melisandre about her reluctance to see the King in the North. Melisandre says that now that she has "brought ice and fire together".

In the throne room, Missandei introduces Daenerys's many titles while Davos introduces Jon simply as King in the North. Daenerys thanks Jon for traveling so far, but insists that he is a mere Lord. Davos begs to differ, but Daenerys responds there has been no King in the North ever since Torrhen Stark bent the knee to Aegon the Conqueror, failing to acknowledge that Jon's "half-brother" Robb Stark was declared king after "their" father's execution, and adds that an oath lasts for perpetuity. Daenerys then reiterates her demand for Jon to bend the knee, but he refuses. When Daenerys accuses him of breaking faith with House Targaryen, Jon (still unaware that the Mad King was his true paternal grandfather) reminds Daenerys that any fealty House Stark owed House Targaryen ended when her father brutally executed Rickard and Brandon Stark.

Daenerys acknowledges her father was an evil man and apologizes for his actions on behalf of House Targaryen. She also stresses that children should not be judged for the crimes of their parents. She then urges Jon to renew the historic allegiance between their two great houses. Jon agrees with Daenerys's view that children should not be blamed for the crimes of their parents but argues that he is not beholden to his ancestors' oaths. When an irritated Daenerys questions why he came, Jon tells her that he has come for her help, and insists she will need his. Daenerys reminds him that she has three dragons and Dothraki who have pledged themselves to her.

Getting to the point of his trip, Jon likens the fighting between the Great Houses to children squabbling over a game. He points out that the Army of the Dead is their true enemy and that if they don't band together against this threat, every person in Westeros will die before winter's end. Daenerys is skeptical but Tyrion vouches for Jon. Jon insists from his own experiences that the White Walkers and the Night King are a serious threat; if they breach the Wall while the rest of Westeros battles it out for the Iron Throne, then they are all dead. Daenerys asks if Jon knew that his alleged father's best friend had sent assassins to kill her as a baby, unaware that Eddard had opposed King Robert Baratheon's assassination plot. Daenerys recounts that she was targeted by assassins, enslaved, raped, and defiled but that her faith in herself rather than the gods kept her going. Daenerys talks about the miracle of her dragons' hatching and the Dothraki crossing the Narrow Sea. When Daenerys reiterates that she is destined to rule the Seven Kingdoms, Jon retorts that she will be ruling over a graveyard if the Night King, who Jon reiterates is their true enemy, is not defeated.

Tyrion says they cannot split their forces to fight the White Walkers when, from Daenerys's perspective, Cersei is the greater threat. Davos then speaks up for his liege lord and tells Daenerys that Jon won the support of both the wildlings and the northerners and has fought the White Walkers. Davos also hints that Jon came back from the dead, though Jon silences him before Davos can give away too much. Davos says that it doesn't matter who bends the knee, as if the Walkers and their undead legions are victorious, no one will be left alive to claim the Iron Throne. Tyrion doesn't see the point of Jon's refusal to submit, urging Jon to bend the knee, assuring him that once Cersei is overthrown and Daenerys crowned Queen, the Targaryen forces can aid the northerners in fighting back the undead; Jon refuses as by the time Cersei is defeated, the Walkers may have already gotten past the Wall and begun their assault on the Seven Kingdoms. Jon also disputes Daenerys's claims to Queenship, citing her claim to the Iron Throne rests upon her descent from a man his Stark relatives helped overthrow. Daenerys responds that he is in open rebellion since he has declared himself King in the North. Daenerys then receives a message from Varys. Daenerys orders Missandei to give Jon and his followers' food and lodging. When Jon asks if he is a prisoner, she says not yet.

Later, Jon and Tyrion discuss his predicament. Jon is unhappy that he is being kept on the island, preventing him from going back home while the White Walkers and the Night King still pose a threat. Tyrion says he trusts the word of Jeor Mormont and Jon. Jon asks Tyrion how he can convince people about the existence of things which they don't believe exist. Jon wants to help his people and is frustrated with the deadlock. Tyrion encourages Jon not to give up. When Jon remarks that he is a fool for going south, Tyrion reassures him that Daenerys is not her father and has protected people from "monsters," just as Jon does, and this is why Daenerys has come to Westeros. Tyrion tells Jon that many of the people she has saved are on this island and suggests Jon speak with them. Tyrion asks if there is something he can do to help Jon.

After learning about the dragonglass beneath Dragonstone, Tyrion speaks with Daenerys about Jon's request to access the material. Daenerys is preoccupied with the loss of two allies. Tyrion convinces Daenerys to let Jon have the dragon glass in order to court his allegiance. He tells her to give him something so that they can focus on Casterly Rock. Daenerys accepts her Hand's advice.

While Daenerys is watching over her dragons, she is joined by Jon. Daenerys tells Jon that she named her dragons Rhaegal and Viserion after her late brothers Rhaegar and Viserys Targaryen and tells Jon that she understands he has lost two brothers himself. When Jon nods at this, Daenerys explains that people had thought dragons were extinct but they exist again and perhaps they should be re-examining what they know. Jon realizes that Tyrion has been petitioning her as well as him. Daenerys tells Jon she is determined to remove Cersei and Jon says he knows she is. When she says she hasn't changed her mind about the North belonging to the Iron Throne, Jon says he hasn't changed his mind either. After a tense moment, Daenerys relents and allows Jon to mine the dragon glass, saying she'll provide what he needs. When he asks if she believes in the Night King and White Walkers, she only responds, "You better get to work, Jon Snow."[2]

Jon calls to Daenerys to show her the dragonglass cave. Jon guides Daenerys deeper into the cave, which has paintings of the Children of the Forest and the Long Night on the walls, as he tells Daenerys about them. They seem to affect Daenerys in some way. She tells him that she will fight for him when he bends the knee. Jon tells Daenerys that the Northerners won't accept a southern ruler after all they've suffered, but Daenerys argues they will accept her if their king does, asking Jon if his desire to protect his people is more valuable than his pride.

After they exit the cave, Daenerys learns the news about what happened in Casterly Rock and Highgarden, which leads her to ask for counsel from Jon. Davos notes that Jon has been developing an attraction to Daenerys.[3]

When Daenerys comes back from the Battle of the Goldroad, Drogon lands near Jon and approaches him. Jon overcomes his fear and reaches out his hand to pet Drogon, which the dragon allows. Daenerys is visibly amazed by this, considering Drogon's usually aggressive personality, especially towards unfamiliar people. She dismounts, at which point Drogon flies off, and claims that the "gorgeous beasts" Jon sees are her children. Daenerys informs Jon of her victory over the Lannisters and they discuss leadership.

Daenerys later has a small war council, which Jon attends. Jon learns that his younger siblings Arya and Bran Stark are alive and in Winterfell. Daenerys is happy for Jon. Jon wants to go home, concerned because this same message also informs him that the Night King is close. Daenerys notes that Jon says he doesn't have enough men to fight the Army of the Dead and Jon asks her again to join him. However, Daenerys is worried that Cersei will take advantage and march in if she turns her focus to the Army of the Dead. The council talks of capturing a wight beyond the Wall and bringing it to King's Landing to convince Cersei the Army of the Dead is real and come to a truce with her. When Jon volunteers to lead the raid, Daenerys is jolted and says she didn't allow him to leave but Jon insists he must lead the raid and asks her to trust in him as it's their best chance to protect all their people. When Jon leaves, Daenerys tells him that she's grown used to him.[4]

On Dragonstone, Daenerys talks to Tyrion about the stupid things heroes can do, noting Drogo, Daario Naharis, Jorah Mormont and even Jon Snow as examples. When Tyrion notices that they all fell in love with her, Daenerys replies that Jon is not in love with her; Tyrion sarcastically says he supposes he isn't, and the way he stares at her is only to pursue a military alliance. Daenerys brushes it off, claiming that Jon is too "little" for her.

Daenerys speaks with Jon after losing Viserion.

Meanwhile, Jon finds himself surrounded by the Army of the Dead and sends Gendry back to Eastwatch to send a raven to Daenerys asking for help. Daenerys doesn't hesitate and immediately flies her dragons beyond the Wall, ignoring Tyrion's objections, coming to his rescue. Mounting Drogon, Daenerys manages to shatter the Army of the Dead by setting some of them aflame and making way for Jon and his companions to escape on dragon's back. However, wights start approaching them and while all the others climb, Jon stays behind to fight the wights off.

Jon and Daenerys hold hands.

At that point, the Night King hurls an ice spear at Viserion, killing him. Devastated, Daenerys can only stare in horror as the dragon smashes into the surface of a frozen lake and sinks beneath the water, while an enraged Jon briefly contemplates charging at the Night King, but as the monster pulls out another spear to attack again, Jon urges Daenerys to flee. While Jon retreats and fights off more wights, a pack of them knock Jon into the waters of the lake. A reluctant Daenerys, and the rest of Jon's party, are forced to flee, Drogon narrowly evading a second spear hurled by the Night King. Jon reemerges from the lake and narrowly manages to escape the wights only due to the sacrifice of his uncle, Benjen Stark.

On top of the Wall at Eastwatch, Daenerys awaits the possibility of Jon's return. He arrives at Eastwatch badly wounded to Daenerys's relief. Jon is immediately loaded to a ship heading towards King's Landing. While he is stripped, Daenerys sees his scars and is astonished, finally understanding what "taking a knife to his heart for his people" meant.

Daenerys sits by Jon's bedside when Jon wakes up. He immediately apologizes to Daenerys for the death of Viserion in their recent battle with the Night King. He wishes he could take it all back and wishes they had never gone on the wight hunt. Daenerys tells him that she isn't sorry, as you have to see the Night King and his army to know it is real. She realizes the severity of the threat is not just to the North, but to the living itself. After revealing how important the dragons are to her - they are the only children she will ever have - she vows to destroy the Night King alongside Jon and his army, once and for all. When Jon thanks her, calling her 'Dany,' Daenerys recalls this is what her brother Viserys last called her and she tells Jon that's not the company he wants to keep. Jon responds with, "How about 'my Queen'?" and pledges fealty to Daenerys as queen. She asks about the Northern lords who have sworn to him but Jon gently assures Daenerys that like him, they will come to see her for the good person she is. He recognises in her the great strength of character and her devotion to defending the realm, despite losing one of her only children to the Night King, which commands great respect in him.

Overcome with emotion, Daenerys reaches for Jon's hand. She expresses pleasure that Jon has such a high opinion of her, but also uncertainty: she hopes that she is fully deserving of the respect that he has for her. Clasping her hand,* Jon assures her that she does. They gaze at each other for a moment but Daenerys, experiencing a mixture of emotions, gently pulls her hand from his grip as he looks longingly into her eyes. Looking away, she encourages him to get some rest.[5] This appears to be the moment at which they fall in love.[6][7]

During the parley in the Dragonpit, Daenerys and Jon discuss the dragons and how her ancestors caged them, and in turn, become less impressive as the power of the dragons waned and that the Targaryens were like everyone else. Jon replies by saying she is "not like everyone else." Jon then questions Daenerys's assertion of infertility, particularly when she admits that her information came from the witch who killed her husband and no one else, saying she was an "unreliable source of information". Daenerys admits to Jon that he was right from the beginning and she should have trusted him, saying that she can't forget what she saw in the North and that she also can't pretend that Cersei will take back the country when she marches North. Jon replies with Tyrion's assessment of the situation that they are fucked, which makes Daenerys smile leading to Jon smiling too. Their conversation is interrupted by the return of all three Lannisters.

At Dragonstone, Jon and Daenerys's council discuss their plans for traveling North. Jon suggests that the two of them sail together so that the Northerners see them together as allies. Ser Jorah suggests that Daenerys fly there instead rather than risk being assassinated by an angry Northerner. Jon argues that it is important for them to be seen as the allies that they are, and to arrive at White Harbor together would send a better message. As she is coming to save, not conquer, the North, she dismisses Jorah's concerns, instead choosing to follow Jon's advice saying, "We sail together."

Meanwhile in Winterfell, Bran reveals to Sam that Jon is the son of Rhaegar and Lyanna, after which Samwell tells Bran that he discovered Rhaegar had his marriage to Elia annulled before marrying Lyanna. Bran goes into the past and learns from a vision that Jon is the true-born son of Rhaegar and Lyanna, and thus the true heir to the Iron Throne ahead of Daenerys.

Jon and Daenerys make love.

On the ship sailing North for White Harbor, Jon knocks on the door of Daenerys's cabin. She answers and meets his gaze without words. After a moment, he enters, and, with their eyes still locked, shuts the door. Unaware of the truth of Jon's parentage and their kinship, they finally give in to the mutual attraction between them and make love.[8]

Season 8

Jon and Daenerys arrive in Winterfell together, and with their armies. They are formally received by Sansa and the remaining Starks. Later, Jon explains to those gathered at the Great Hall that he feels his political alliance with Daenerys - bending the knee to her - is more important than remaining King in the North. He says he had a choice: to keep his crown or protect the North. He chose the North. As Tyrion comes to Jon's defence when the Northern lords are angered by Jon's decision, Daenerys turns to look at Jon; she is pleased with their alliance forming "the greatest army the world has ever seen." She places her hand on his arm. Their blossoming romance is difficult to conceal.

As they walk outside the walls of Winterfell, Daenerys tells Jon that Sansa doesn't seem to like her much and Jon tries reassuring her that Sansa didn't like him much during their childhood. Daenerys tells Jon that she doesn't need Sansa to be her friend but that as her Queen, Daenerys expects Sansa to respect her, or there will be unstated consequences. Daenerys sees herself as in command of the relationship and seeks to get Jon to insist that Sansa bends to her will.

After tending to the dragons, Jon and Daenerys go on a "dragon date": it is Jon's first time riding on the back of one - a rare opportunity for someone who is not a Targaryen and he struggles at first. Their bond deepens as they fly on dragonback together and Jon manages to steer Rhaegal to a waterfall where he used to hunt as a child. After they land in the secluded location, they embrace and kiss, while Drogon looks on.

In the crypt in Winterfell, Samwell reveals to Jon that Daenerys had Sam's father and brother executed. Jon is shocked by this news as Daenerys hadn't told him. He expresses sympathy towards Sam, who asks him whether he would have done the same. Jon reminds Sam that like Daenerys, he has executed people before. Sam responds that Jon has also shown mercy before. Jon replies that he wasn't king.

Sam cryptically tells Jon that he has always been a king; Jon confuses this for meaning that he is the King in the North, but Sam tells he doesn't mean that: he means "the King of the Seven Bloody Kingdoms!" When Sam tells Jon that he is the trueborn son of Rhaegar Targaryen and Lyanna Stark, Jon is visibly shocked and refuses to believe Ned Stark lied to him all his life. Sam tells Jon that Ned lied to protect him from Robert Baratheon. The news is difficult for Jon to take and all he can say is that Daenerys is the queen. Sam tells Jon she shouldn't be, but Jon calls that treason. Sam then poses Jon an important question: Jon gave up his crown for his people, would Daenerys?[9]

In Winterfell, in the Great Hall, Daenerys takes the main chair at the great table, and plays a central in determining the fate of Jaime Lannister, her father's killer. After listening to arguments in defence of keeping Jaime alive, including Brienne vouching for him, and Sansa vouching for Brienne, Daenerys turns to Jon for his opinion. Jon says they "need every man they can get." Daenerys is visibly displeased with this outcome, having long imagined what she would do to him, but agrees with a curt "very well." When she turns to Jon, Jon avoids eye contact, struggling with the news of their blood relation. Daenerys is affronted, and their interaction is observed and noted by Varys, Tyrion, Missandei, and Jorah. She storms out of the hall via the front entrance.

In the library at Winterfell, Sansa and Daenerys meet. Daenerys realizes Jon is an issue between herself and Sansa. Sansa says that Jon loves Daenerys and is concerned Daenerys is manipulating him but Daenerys assures Sansa that her love for Jon is genuine and she has no ulterior motives. She tells Sansa that she put her life long quest for the Iron Throne on hold to join the fight against the Night King (which has cost her one of her dragons[5]) because of her love for Jon. She confides that the only other man she loved as much as Jon was her late husband, Drogo.

Sam and Jon discuss when to tell Daenerys the truth about his identity. Later on, he is in the crypt, visiting the memorial to his mother, Lyanna, contemplating the revelation and no doubt the imminent war with the dead. Daenerys appears, seeking comfort, and when Jon sees her, he gives her a soft smile, upon which Daenerys approaches him. She wraps both arms around his right arm and he holds her hand as Daenerys asks him whose statue he is standing in front of. Jon tells her it is of Lyanna Stark; Daenerys recoils a little and recalls being told that her brother Rhaegar, who was "decent and kind; liked to sing; gave money to poor children" and had raped Lyanna. Daenerys seems incredulous.

Jon tells Daenerys that Rhaegar didn't rape Lyanna; he loved her and they were married in secret. After Rhaegar fell at the Trident, Lyanna had a baby, whom Robert Baratheon would have murdered had he found out. Lyanna gave the baby to her brother to be raised as his own bastard. That is the truth of Jon's identity.

Jon: "My name - my real name - is Aegon Targaryen."
Daenerys: "That's impossible."
Jon: "I wish it were."
— Jon tells Dany of their kinship

Daenerys is stunned and asks Jon who told him. He tells her it was Bran who found out, and Sam who confirmed it. Daenerys is incredulous; she asks Jon whether he thinks it strange that only his brother and his best friend knew. Jon tells her he believes it. Daenerys reacts by saying if it is true, then Jon would be the last male heir to House Targaryen: he would have a claim to the throne. Daenerys is unconcerned that this would make Jon her nephew as incest is common for Targaryens; she is more concerned about the political ramifications.

Their conversation is broken up by the sounding of the war horns; the battle against the Night King and the army of the dead is about to commence. Jon gives Daenerys a nod as if to say, we'll settle this if we survive the war: the time now is for action.[10]

When the Dothraki charge the undead and disappear into the darkness, Daenerys makes her way to Drogon. However, Jon takes Daenerys's arm and tries to temper her action by warning her that the Night King is coming. She replies, "The dead are already here." Daenerys and Jon ride the dragons together in the fight against the Night King throughout the battle.

After they unseat the Night King from an undead Viserion, Jon tries to take on the grounded Night King but the Night King prevents Jon from reaching him by raising wights from the surrounding dead. Daenerys, from atop of Drogon, clears the swarming wights and when Jon calls to her that he needs to go to the godswood, where Bran is luring the Night King so they can ambush him, Daenerys tells him to go. After Jon departs while Daenerys is still on Drogon's back, she and Drogon wait a moment too long before taking off and wights start to swarm again. Drogon flies upward to escape them, knocking Daenerys off, but she is protected by Jorah, who fights to the death. These combined military efforts prove to be pivotal, and help pave the way for Arya's eventual elimination of the Night King.[11]

At Winterfell, whilst celebrating the victory of the living over the dead. Daenerys and Jon share smiles with each other. However, she is unhappy when she witnesses the praise Jon receives from Tormund and the wildlings. She later visits Jon in his chamber, whereupon he consoles her about Jorah's death, saying if Jorah could have chosen a way to die, it would have been protecting her. Daenerys reveals the true depth of her affections for Jon when she says that Jorah loved her, but she could not love him the same way - the way she loves Jon - and asks Jon if that is alright. Jon kisses her in response. The couple engages and begin removing each other's clothes when Jon hesitates and pulls back. At this point, Daenerys says she wishes he'd never told her; that she would be much happier not knowing. Commenting on the love and admiration the Northmen have for Jon, Daenerys begins to question whether they would ever be loyal to her if they discovered Jon's identity and fears others will press Jon's claim over hers. Jon says he'll refuse his claim and gets down on one knee, swearing Daenerys will always be his queen.

It is at that point that Daenerys first expresses her feelings towards Jon as being a threat to her claim to the throne. She worries what will happen if the Northmen were to find out and demand that he presses his claim and takes what is hers. She points out that it doesn't matter whether or not he wants the Iron Throne - he didn't want to be King in the North, but it was still expected of him. Crucially, Daenerys sees the throne as hers and, knowing Jon has the more legitimate claim but no desire for it, her solution is for Jon to say nothing to anyone about his parentage, and to swear Samwell and Bran to secrecy. She fears the truth will take on a life of its own and he won't be able to control it or what it does to people. Daenerys takes his hand and wishes that things could go back to the way they were, before they both knew of his true parentage. Daenerys fears what Sansa will do if she finds out. Jon takes her hand, telling her he must be honest with his sisters and trusts that Sansa will keep his parentage secret. His divided loyalties become apparent at this point between his love for Daenerys and his family: he feels his family - the people he grew up with and loves as his siblings (Sansa, Arya and Bran) - deserve to know the truth about him. Daenerys asks: "Even if the truth destroys us?" Jon thinks this won't happen; she seems certain it will. Daenerys tells him she has never begged for anything before, and with tears in her eyes, proceeds to beg him not to them the truth. Jon gently cups Daenerys's face and tells her that she is his queen, nothing will change that, but is insistent that he must be honest with his sisters about himself. Daenerys makes it clear that he only has one choice as far as she is concerned: the one she just outlined.

Jon: "You are my Queen, nothing can change that; and they are my family: we can live together."
Daenerys: "We can. I've just told you how."
The Last of the Starks

In the Godswood, Sansa and Arya reveal their distrust of Daenerys and Jon defends her. While Arya understands why Jon bent the knee, she says they are the last of the Starks and they can only rely on each other. Jon disagrees with this. After Jon says he's never been a Stark, both Arya and Sansa say Jon is just as much Ned's child as they are. Jon hesitates and Bran tells Jon it is his choice whether to tell Arya and Sansa about his parentage. Jon swears Sansa and Arya to secrecy and once they vow to keep this information a secret, Jon - grappling with his divided loyalties - decides to let Bran tell them. Struggling between keeping her promise to Jon and mistrust of Daenerys, Sansa decides to tell Tyrion the kinship revelation.

Onboard a ship to Dragonstone, Tyrion informs Varys of the kinship revelation. Varys asks how many others know; Tryion replies "Including us: eight".[12] Their revealing exchange continues:

Varys: "Well then, it's is not a secret anymore: it's information. If a handful of people know now, hundred will know soon - then what?"
Tyrion: "She loses the North. She loses the Vales. Sansa will make sure of that."
Varys: "It's worse than that - he has the better claim to the throne."
Tyrion: "He doesn't want the throne."
Varys: "I'm not sure it matters what he wants. The fact is, people are drawn to him: wildlings, Northmen; he's a war hero."
Tyrion: "He loves our queen, and she loves him. If we marry them they could rule together."
Varys: "She's his aunt."
Tyrion: "That never stopped a Targaryen before..."
Varys: "No. But Jon grew up in Winterfell. Is marrying your aunt common in the north? You know our queen better than I do; do you think she wants to share the throne? She does not like to have her authority questioned."
Tyrion: "Something she has in common with every monarch who's ever lived."
Varys: "I worry about her state of mind."
Tyrion: "We are advisors to the queen: worrying about her state of mind is our job. We still have to take King's Landing. Maybe Cersei will win and kill us all. That would solve our problems".[13]

At Dragonstone, Daenerys raises her concern about the love the people of Westeros have for him, whereas she has only their fear. Jon tells Daenerys that he loves her and that she will always be his queen. She challenges Jon if she's only his queen now. Daenerys tries to re-engage their relationship but, though he gives in at first, Jon again disengages from their physical intimacy due to his unease surrounding their close blood relation. Daenerys resigns herself to letting the fear she has inspired in Westeros be her ruling principle. This seems to imply that she had hoped for their partnership (in whatever guise) to have inspired the love of the smallfolk. For Daenerys (a Targaryen born and bred), incest between lovers is not an issue. Whilst the proposal of marriage is not brought up by either character, a marital union between them could have resulted in a beneficial alliance between her powerful and feared army and his esteemed status as the King in the North. It is uncertain if the prospect occurs to Daenerys, although it likely crosses her mind. The line "let it be fear" indicates that she accepts the prospect of the Northmen not loving her as a consequence of Jon's inability to overcome the knowledge of their blood connection and return to their romantic relationship. This inability of Jon's - to be a romantic partner to Daenerys - is one of many triggers which adds to Daenerys's mental decline.[14]

Following the Daenerys's destruction of King's Landing, Tyrion urges Jon that despite his love for Daenerys, he must kill her to stop her continued destruction in her plans to take over the world but Jon struggles with this. He goes to see Daenerys himself and confronts her about the democide she perpetrated on the city. They have fundamental disagreements about the way to go about building the new world: Daenerys wants to destroy the old one entirely whereas Jon hopes he can dissuade Daenerys from this and pleads with her that forgiveness and mercy are what is required. Daenerys is unwavering and believes her actions are necessary. They disagree on what is good: Daenerys is certain that her way is the only way to bring about a good world and that she knows what is good - and so does he; others don't get to choose. Jon sees her authoritarianism as immoveable. Full of hope, she tells a distressed Jon that she wants him to be with her and rule this new world she plans to create, at which point a heartbroken Jon tells her she will always be his queen. They share a kiss before he reluctantly stabs her. Daenerys dies in Jon's arms as he weeps, thus bringing their relationship to its tragic conclusion.[15]

Notes

General

  • Director Alan Taylor has said George R.R. Martin told when filming Season 1, "That it really is all about Dany and Jon. I was surprised because at the time, you know, I thought, well Robb Stark's going to be king next, probably. And who knows where this story's going? But it was absolutely clear to him that within this sprawling scale the whole story was coming down to this partnership."[16]
  • The revelation that Jon and Daenerys are biologically related (kin) is revealed to the audience before being revealed to the characters. This literary device is known as "dramatic irony", and is a technique used in many of the tragedies of Shakespeare, for example.[17]

Marriage Alliance

Recalling Varys saying "They say, every time a Targaryen is born, the gods toss a coin and the world holds it’s breath;"[14] as season 8 begins a coin toss seems to separate Jon and Daenerys from coming closer together through a marriage alliance, thus deepening their political alliance or, owing to their very different upbringings and personal experiences, being driven apart due to their cultural and psychological differences. While they love one another and want to be together, conflict between their romantic and political relationships, as well as their cultural differences and Daenerys's realized fears that the people will prefer Jon over her, create tension between them.

  • Although the prospect of marriage between Daenerys and Jon is never discussed by them, the "proposal of a proposal" is first raised by Davos Seaworth when he speaks with Tyrion and Varys at Winterfell.[9] Focusing on the issue of loyalty and the need to forge alliances, Davos raises the possibility of a marriage-alliance between Jon and Daenerys being beneficial for the security of the realm. He refers to their potential union as that of a "just queen and an honourable man." All three are unaware of the kinship revelation at this time. As far as we are aware, neither Tyrion nor Varys ever discuss this possibility with Daenerys.
  • The prospect of a potential marriage between Jon and Daenerys is further discussed by Tyrion and Varys (Davos is not present) as they travel to Dragonstone.[13] This time they are both aware of the kinship revelation, which adds weight to debate about the ramifications for the realm. Tyrion seems to think a marriage would be a favourable compromise between the rival claimants to the throne, as Jon and Daenerys love do happen to love each other. Varys thinks once the secret / "information" is out, the Northmen would insist Jon press his claim at threat of rebelling. He says the aunt-nephew marriages are not common in the North and a marriage between Jon and Daenerys would not be accepted, adding that he believes Daenerys is unlikely to want to share the power. This exchange between Daenerys's two advisors articulates the conflicting - and potentially irreconcilable - differences between Jon and Daenerys.
  • Later on, in Dragonstone, Tyrion and Varys continue to discuss Daenerys's mental health and the problem of Jon Snow.[13] Varys sees Jon as a solution - backing him makes sense because he is temperate, measured and male. Tyrion responds by reminding Varys of his earlier proposal of marrying them, so that they could "rule together as king and queen." Varys replies that Daenerys is "too strong for him: she would bend him to her will, as she already has." Tyrion reasons that Jon could "temper her worse impulses." Varys sarcastically replies, "As you have?", meaning that Varys thinks no man can temper her impulses. This is not strictly true, as Jon helped Jaime walk away with his life, in spite of Daenerys's life long vendetta against him. At the end of their discussion, it is clear that Tyrion and Varys are in disagreement: Tyrion supports and believes in Daenerys; Varys supports and believes in Jon. Tellingly, Tyrion believes Daenerys will make the right choice with the help of her loyal advisors.
    • Tyrion and Varys's discussion of a potential union is an attempt to reconcile Jon and Daenerys's differences for the good of the realm. As Daenerys's advisors, the fact that they failed to reach an agreement, or, more importantly, to even discuss these possibilities with Daenerys means they ultimately failed to advise her on her most important relationship: the one with Jon, the warden of Daenerys's Westerosi kingdoms and who is familiar to the North. As such, Daenerys received insufficient council when it mattered the most and her mental well-being declined, resigning herself to one option: accepting the fear of Westeros, rather than trying to win its love. While she must be held accountable for her actions, this failure had, rather ironically, a detrimental effect on Daenerys's well-being which negatively impacted the realm itself.

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Appearances

Season Seven appearances
Dragonstone Stormborn The Queen's Justice The Spoils of War
Eastwatch Beyond the Wall The Dragon and the Wolf
Season Eight appearances
Winterfell A Knight of the Seven Kingdoms The Long Night
The Last of the Starks The Bells The Iron Throne

In the books

In the A Song of Ice and Fire novels, Jon and Daenerys have not met yet. Neither of them has an idea about Jon's true identity.

By the point the books reached, Jon has been fatally stabbed, while Daenerys is still abandoned in the Dothraki Sea.

Daenerys still considers the Starks and the Lannisters collectively as "the usurper's dogs". She has no idea about the atrocities her father committed, particularly those against the Starks.

References

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